Learn about genital herpes
Symptoms of genital herpes are:
- Painful blisters or ulcers in the genital area that can cause itching, burning, and inflammation
- Flu-like symptoms such as fever, chills, body aches, and fatigue
- painful urination
- swollen lymph nodes
Symptoms are usually worst during the first outbreak and can last up to four weeks. Recurrent outbreaks can occur at any time after the first occurrence, but are usually less severe and do not last as long.
Herpes is rarely a life-threatening illness and has few long-term health effects for most healthy adults. Because of this, Henderson says most people can come to see living with it as an inconvenience.
However, herpes can cause complications in people with weakened immune systems, and although rare, it can infect newborns and cause severe systemic symptoms that can be fatal. It is important to understand the diagnosis so that you can effectively communicate the risks to potential sexual partners.
Here are some tips to help you manage all the thoughts and feelings that a herpes diagnosis brings.
Learn the facts before discussing herpes with your partner
Diagnosing herpes can seem complicated. “Herpes has a huge psychological impact,” says Dr. Handsfield. “But with knowledge about this disease, we can reduce it.”
Websites like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), Planned Parenthood, and the American Sexual Health Association are great places to learn the basics about genital herpes.
“Educate yourself as much as possible so your partner or potential partner understands,” says Henderson. “Knowledge is power, and it supports your emotional power.”
receive guidance from a doctor
Consult your doctor to get the facts straight. “You can look up general background information on the internet, but talking to a medical professional can make a big difference. They can tell you specifically what’s going on with you, and they can be empathetic,” says Henderson.
If you don’t have a family doctor, visit a family planning center or community health center. At these centers, you can find low-cost or free medical services, depending on your income.
Tailor your approach to your specific situation
Genital herpes can be transmitted through vaginal, anal, or oral sex with an infected partner.
The types of measures you should take to protect your own health and the health of your sex partner will depend on your lifestyle, habits, and circumstances. A sexually active person with many partners may need to take different steps than someone in a long-term monogamous relationship.
To avoid transmitting the virus to others, Handsfield points out, there are three things you need to do.
- First, avoid sexual activity during the outbreak.
- Second, use a condom.
- Third, under the supervision of a doctor, take antiviral drugs such as acyclovir, valacyclovir, or famciclovir daily for a long period of time.
Some committed couples choose one of the strategies listed above, but not necessarily all of them, says Handsfield. “Many couples stay in relationships for years. The risk of infection is never zero, but it can be minimized,” he says.
Additionally, people who have been infected with the virus for a long time are typically less contagious than those who have been infected recently.
In these cases, it is best to follow the steps listed above to prevent the spread of genital herpes to your partner, including avoiding sex during an outbreak, using condoms regularly, and talking to your doctor about long-term antiviral therapy.
